I have been reading some of your posts to others... You are doing really well and offering excellent advice. And, I think maybe you begin to see how really clear some things are from the "other side" -- i.e. pretty freaking crystal clear, lol.
And, perhaps you are beginning to feel the frustration of watching people who keep hurting themselves and who keep seeing and hearing things in a way that merely confirms their beliefs, rather than really helping them move forward. In most cases, the wheels will eventually turn and movement will happen some way or another. But, not in all cases. You can help those most who really *want* to hear what they least want to hear, lol.
When the defenses are still totally up (and they reject the obvious or hear it as validation of their own view in a very distorted way), advice may actually backfire by giving them something to fight against or take as bolstering their own rightness, rather than looking at themselves. (Kind of like continuing to fight with a WAS helps them cope by giving them a target to shoot at and showing them they are right to do so, which once removed makes them look at themselves instead...)
Anyway, keep up the generousity of spirit you are now showing to others. The old pay it forward tactic really does help others and it will feel good to boot
