Ok, thanks. Yes, I have been doing that from the beginning. I don't think I read about it anywhere, and really, before you brought it up, I didn't realize I was doing that.
It's not a strategy I employ so much as trying as best I can to look at things without emotion. I guess it's part of detaching.
It just seems like it's the right way to go about this since I KNOW I am paranoid and my mind plays tricks on me. The way I see it is that so many of us spend SO much time looking for evidence of NEGATIVE things our spouses are doing and so little time looking for evidence of the positive things. I think it's especially important for people like me, Mama, NM, Frank, PArob, Tim and Xue to make that shift from assuming the worst then trying to find evidence to support our paranoia, to assuming the best and looking for things that support it.
Thank you for pointing this out. Of course all of this is done with the thought that just because I'm paranoid doesn't mean it's not happening...lol.
