sure you say in one post a way back something about OM and then actually say but there is no evidence of that
then you say
Quote: I 99% believed her that it was ONLY the two GFs that she said she was meeting for dinner.
and then you look for any evidence that would back up this thought
Quote: Nothing she said or did smacked of the OM being there.
you seem to be doing it automatically get a negative thought in your head of something and automatically look for evidence in her speech or behaviour that confirms or rejects this thought
the thought is illogical (though natural) and you immediately challenge it by looking for evidence but you look for evidence that confirms or rejects it
psychologist train people (adults and children) to look for evidence when negative or illogical thoughts jump into their head as a way of controlling them
you seem to be doing it as a natural part of your functioning
