Thanks for stopping by BJ.

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for you guys sex starts it off
for females sex is the end result



Yea, I guess that's about right at least in my sitch since the only real intimacy we ever had was sex.

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the undies debate that went on awhile back
well I just replaced all my underwear over the past few weeks and some of it is really cool stuff
and there is no male in my life at the moment I did it totally for me



Yea, that's what W says, that she bought them for her but then again, like I said, who buys hot pink REALLY uncomfortable looking ultra skinny undies with a heart embroidered on the front? Nevermind...past that now...lol.

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Another DBer on here Frank is seeing a T with his w and the T has said to create sexual tension - play around abit but create tension
dunno if this will work for you or not
it kind of links into the beginnings of a relationship when there is just the getting to know you thing happening and no sex - I guess it is how the whole sex thing began



Yea, I have been following Frank for a LONG time and he's doing really well. He's actually been my DB hero since I got here. He does a really good job of conveying his sitch. I am watching what happens with him and learning from it for sure.

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I think what gets in the way is the fact that you have been intimate many times in the course of your m and now need to start over at the beginning but with someone you know really well already



Yes, this seems obvious but hard to actually pull off. I am working on it though.

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I think you are doing well on the 'trust' issues and love the way you talk about 'evidence' this is an excellent way to go and a brilliant thought stopping technique used by psychologists



Thanks. Could you elaborate on which part of my daily dribble you are referring to?

Again, thanks for stopping by. I enjoy reading your posts whenever I come across them.

GH

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