Hey Grasshopper jumped over to have a look and there are definately similiarites in your sitch and Xue's moving forward slowly but without the intimacy you guys want
am thinking males - sex = emotionally attached attached = intimacy females - need to feel emotionally attached = intimacy = sex
for you guys sex starts it off for females sex is the end result
I think overall you are doing really well - building up emotional stability which will eventually lead to what 'you want'
the undies debate that went on awhile back well I just replaced all my underwear over the past few weeks and some of it is really cool stuff and there is no male in my life at the moment I did it totally for me
Another DBer on here Frank is seeing a T with his w and the T has said to create sexual tension - play around abit but create tension dunno if this will work for you or not it kind of links into the beginnings of a relationship when there is just the getting to know you thing happening and no sex - I guess it is how the whole sex thing began
I think what gets in the way is the fact that you have been intimate many times in the course of your m and now need to start over at the beginning but with someone you know really well already
I think you are doing well on the 'trust' issues and love the way you talk about 'evidence' this is an excellent way to go and a brilliant thought stopping technique used by psychologists
