Last night W reminded me that she has a "girls night out" scheduled for Tuesday. One of the "girls" is the friend that as of Friday (there was a lot more we talked about that I didn't remember to journal) I now know met OM at least once and knows all about the A. She even told me that this friend went to dinner with her, OM and other friends. She still says GF does not support the A but I have my doubts, knowing this GF. As I said a couple weeks ago, this night out just so happens to be on the night one of my W's favorite bands is playing in town. She hasn't said what their plans are, but back before all this recent opening up happened, I suspected she was going to the concert with OM. I sincerely doubt that is the case now but... I am just going to DB a little more, not necessarily trust W but I am not going to distrust her either. I will take her at her word, probably express my concerns at some point and then do my own thing that night.
As for OM, one other thing that came out is that W is almost sure that the whole A was designed to get at my W's perceived money. When she told me this, I think I surprised her by asking in a concerned way if that bothered her. She said yes, but that saying it hurt me. I said it did not and that I understood that even though she was committed to us, that she was going to go through some things relating to him and that I understood. I told her she could talk to me about it without fear of me getting upset. I just wanted her to be able to deal with her feelings and then move past them.
I say he was after her perceived money because while she drives a nice car and always dresses well, we have little cash flow beyond what we need to live. Also, W's parents have helped in the past with things like her car, etc so our "situation" is not really what it seems. W said OM made several comments while they were seeing each other about her being rich, "oh, you're the moneybags, you get that bill", etc, and in the end, derogatory comments about her thinking she gets what she wants because she has money, which if he only knew, would be laughable. The last straw on that front to her was hearing people at the gym, where they hung out together, talk about him saying he was "set for life" and would never have to work again. I guess W was a little furious at this, lol.
I am just kinda shocked that W would hang around for all this. Part of me thinks that her going for this guy, and letting what seems to be his con work on her is really sad because it shows just how down she was/is. Another part of me suspects that just like when they get with the OM and bad mouth us to them so they feel better about the sitch, I think she may be doing that in reverse to get me to feel better about things. Maybe a little of each is the case, or something else all together. Who knows. In any event, she is still opening up to me and that is good, period.
She seems to have nothing but disdain for this guy. I know it would be better if she just had apathy, and I think that is starting to be the case, but for now, disdain and dislike will do. I hope this is all for real. It seems to be but as I have been saying, I will keep my eyes and ears open.
