GH, I think your Friday night convo was awesome. Letting your W know what you wanted in your M and getting her to agree that she wants the same is a huge step for you, especially your letting her know that she needs to tell you whatever is holding her back.

I would urge you not to let it die there. The next time your R comes up, ask her what she would like to do to have more passion and affection in the M. Don't wait for her to tell you -- ask specifically what you can do.

The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)