Well, my parents always come over for Easter and my W even made sure I call them and invite them a few days ago. At the time, they said they were busy. Now they want to come. Since they have not seen the kids in months and it will be a long time until I have a free weekend, it really does have to be this weekend or not at all. The good news is that they don't stay long and in all honesty, the cleaning would have been done tonight anyway. It won't be that bad and if we feel like we have too much on our plate, then we will cancel the plans for Easter day and just have family time then.
Another reality is that the time I spend with W cleaning tonight is likely to be "closer" than if we had nothing to do. I know that is sad but these days it's the truth. I am working hard to change that and have faith that I/we will.
It's really ok, and actually, my W was stressed that my parents somehow felt slighted that we didn't call to invite them earlier. Easter with them is something that is somewhat a family tradition and my W likes traditions so...
My negative reaction was a bit exaggerated and premature. W called and is happily going to the store to buy a few things for their visit and I assured her that our plans of shopping, ect were NOT going to be altered just because they were in town. I told my mom that already and she was perfectly cool with it. Dad, well, he can live on the couch for a few hours while we all go out as per his usual.
It will be fine. Probably a good opportunity for me to DB, be positive and make the most of the weekend! The old me would have already been trying to "fix" everything and everyone, and when I couldn't do that, I would be a basket case right now. In the past I would be stressed to the max right about now anticipating a mood that would never come from my W...in the past, I would have expected that phone call to be full of resentment and anger over my parents coming...even though I have never known my W to feel that way when they did.
In the past, I would have projected my negativity onto the whole scene, been angry all night tonight, aloof and absent tomorrow leaving W to entertain my parents while I sulked somewhere and then probably an ass on Sunday because I didn't get my way either day.
Not gonna do it. Not this time. PMA rules the day!!!!
