"We have shared our stiches before. Things got better, than I pushed recommitment and she ran upstairs. She says she need her space and time to figure things out. She is tired of counseling and is still very angry with me. I keep pushing her buttons by not respecting her boundaries.
She keeps pushing my buttons by threatening divorce and leaving. I keep trying harder. I am really like you at my wits end. I would rather get a divorce than keep livinbg like this. The only reason I am still trying is for the kids.
i try to DB, but I don't have the self-control. My mother, the therapist (really), says that I may be subconsciously sabotaging the marriage. Sound familiar. Then we can blame her.
We have agreed to space, no heat emotioanl realtionship talks for one month. She will live upstairs. I will live downstairs. We will be friendly and can go on dates. We can interact as friends. She is still wearing her wedding ring, kissing me and saying "ILY". "
Okay so we talked to him about pulling back some and he is trying to do that. He is feeling that that is not working because she is withdrawing now. I tried to tell him that's good thing and it is to be expected. She needs to see herself without him since that's how she's suggesting it'll be...
He has a tendency to be controlling and a personal observation from me is that he is unable to hold his tongue for long...IMO he will require a VERY detailed step by step plan. He is a bit high strung. A high achiever.
One seemingly small question he asked today is whether or not to get her an Easter gift. I think Frank_D handled that one though.
Can you go from that info?.....I encountered him through Shark so I don't know about his very first posts.
Thanks Grasshopper!
And GOOD LUCK!!!
Shark's threads tend to run at the speed of light so buckle up.
so buckle up.
