To expand a little on what my W used to complain about, it wasn't so much that I was paying attention to the TV or something else as much as she could tell my heart was not in what I was doing, and this was across the "intimacy board" so to speak. Now, whatever I do, from a back rub to stroking her hair to touching her legs, I do it in a way that conveys that I am aware of HER and FEEL what I am doing.
This is something I just would not have done before because either I was only all about sex as she suspects, or I just didn't think she wanted me to touch her like that. I see how wrong I was. When I do it with sensuality and focus instead of half-hearted interest she seems to respond BETTER, but not as much as I'd like.
As I said, I will give it time. This is all VERY new to both of us and as with all the rest, I see progress so I will put off TALKING about it in favor of more action.
