Nothing much to report. W was extremely tired after keeping both boys home and entertaining them all day (Chucky Cheese, lunch, movie and playing in the yard...fun for all!). I decided to insist she take a night off from the usual routine and I did most of the cleaning and such. She seemed to appreciate it.
On the intimacy front, I made a concerted effort (although I hope SHE didn't see it as an effort, lol) to be closer to her. Lots of leg touching and cuddling on the couch. Even though it seems like more of the same, I am going about it in subtly different ways, paying more attention (something she used to complain about; I would be touching her and paying attention to something else) to what I was doing and in general being more sensual about it. I have also stepped up the "little" touching I am doing, brushing her shoulders as I walk by and such. Really, I am trying to slowly introduce the idea of touching and intimacy into our daily life, something that is VERY different from the touchless way we lived before all this. Rather than possibly frustrate her because I am not initiating sexual intimacy, I think this is helping her get to a place where she finally DOES see me as a passionate, sensual person. I think it is working well because as the days have passed, she seems more and more comfortable with it. I think in the beginning she thought it was still all about sex with me. Now, I think she is beginning to understand that there will be a lot more to our intimacy, even from ME, than that. And no, OT, I am not treating sex as something W doesn't like, I fully realize what you have said is probably true about her liking it, I just feel it's VERY important that she feel desired OUTSIDE the bedroom before inside because of our history. I think once it's established through my DAILY ACTIONS that I desire her and look at her as a hot, sexy woman, then the bedroom will follow. Like you all told me before, foreplay starts on Monday. Well, I am taking that to heart and we'll see how it goes. So far, so good.
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P.S. Now, if they can create a section of the board for Piecing a sexless marriages involving a WAW with MLC symptoms that continues to have OM in her life...THAT I will move to...lol.
