Quote: f you do move over there, be careful!!! there are some folks over there that really are piecing. Sage, KML are great examples. But, there are also frequent cases of people who are in total denial about their Rs and are farther from true reconcilliation than you were 3 months ago. And, far less likely to achieve it because they will not distance or detach at all. They go from Newcomers to Piecing without really having made any progress as soon as their spouse looks at them with anything other than raw hatred. Really, you'll seem them. You think some folks are in denial here, you haven't seen it yet in piecing, lol...
Yea, I know. That's why I hesitate, in addition to all the reasons I like it here. I have seen people there that are NOWHERE NEAR piecing and yet I guess they are there because, why, they just didn't like the advice they were getting somewhere else? I too was shocked at how much anger there was from some people. To me, how can you be piecing a marriage back together when you are still chipping away at it's foundation? No, I will be careful. Thanks for the warning.
Quote: BTW, I'm not sold that MC is necessary once you are really committed to improving the R and staying with it. MC can keep you stuck in the past, and no matter how good the MC, there is a certain way in which you must be picturing your M as a "troubled M at risk" to be going to MC.
Beyond my W's resistance, I believe this as well. I know we have issues to work through but MC would actually, I believe, BECOME one of those issues, not solve any.
