if you do move over there, be careful!!! there are some folks over there that really are piecing. Sage, KML are great examples. But, there are also frequent cases of people who are in total denial about their Rs and are farther from true reconcilliation than you were 3 months ago. And, far less likely to achieve it because they will not distance or detach at all. They go from Newcomers to Piecing without really having made any progress as soon as their spouse looks at them with anything other than raw hatred. Really, you'll seem them. You think some folks are in denial here, you haven't seen it yet in piecing, lol...
So, there is great help to be had there, just be wary.
BTW, I'm not sold that MC is necessary once you are really committed to improving the R and staying with it. MC can keep you stuck in the past, and no matter how good the MC, there is a certain way in which you must be picturing your M as a "troubled M at risk" to be going to MC.
Targeted MC might be OK I guess. Like, if you had someone you worked with but didn't see regularly. Then, you get to a sticking point and say, "hey, maybe we could spend an hour with MC on this sticky wicket."
