GH, I'd like to encourage you to stay around here for a while before going over to piecing, because a lot of your recovery issues are going to be specifically related to your W's A, including her guilt, lingering affection/sexual issues, etc. It would help a lot of us who are hoping to soon be where you are to see some of what comes next and realize that the end of the A isn't the end of the problems.
Do you have anything specific planned for your recovery? MC? Giving the kids to some relatives so you can have a weekend together?
The LORD is near to all who call on him, to all who call on him in truth." (Psalm 145:18)
