You started another thread asking the same question as this one so I took the liberty of replying here. It's usually helpful to just keep things going on one thread. It helps people follow your sitch. It may seem like nobody is responding but give it time, and post a little more info and it will start to happen.
Now, as for your restating of the original question...
Quote: I don't feel I can beging DBing again until my H admits it was sexual not just emotional.
Again, I addressed that idea already. What are your thoughts about what I said?
Quote: I don't think that without the truth, I can ever trust him in the future. How do you begin to heal without the truth. How can you re-build a marriage without trust.
Ok, like I asked before, and you didn't respond to, you have evidence that he is having/had a PA? Do you already know the "truth" and just need him to confirm it? I would suggest that sometimes it's good to be careful with what you think you know.
As for healing without the truth, well, you have to heal yourself first. The "truth" has absolutely nothing to do with YOU and YOUR healing. It may have something to do with the health of the marriage and trusting him but those things are SEPERATE from YOU. Like I said in my first reply to you, if you are focused on the A, or the "truth" as you say, then you aren't focused on you, which is essential if you are to begin healing.
As for rebuilding a marriage, well, I don't think you are at that point yet because you haven't even begun to rebuild yourself yet and a marriage, like a chain, is only as strong as it's parts. Work on you first, then worry about the marriage later. Don't make the mistake of thinking you need the marriage to be worked out, one way or the other, to begin to heal.
