More problems/drama to stew on. D court is set up for this thursday. Two days away! I was given counseling from this man that wrote the book Stop Your Divorce and he had told me to go ahead and give it to her. Give her the divorce. The more I try to stop the legal divorce the more she'll hate me. The more she'll really have her mind made up that she doesn't want to be with me. But then I go on here and I hear and read that if I don't want to D then I shouldn't. Counseling still might be an option for me to ask from the judge. But should I because... The same day of court I just found out yesterday that my Dad is going to have his heart surgery. I text'd my W that I would still make it to C. But later on that evening I finally talked to my parents and they were asking me if I could postpone Court to go with them. Which my Dad will be have to travel to another city to get this surgery performed. I had textd my W that I really need to go and be with my Dad and I'd like to postpone. She replies that the lawyer is hired to represent me and she's sorry of my situation but she's not going to postpone. I'm worried. On a lot of things, what's gonna happen to my pop's. Is my W just hoping I don't go to C so she can try to get things her way? Should I really ask for counseling? Should I just divorce her an show her that I'm independent and don't need her and hope that technique will work later in the future?