W's lawyer set up a court date. She says that she's ready to divorce and if I'm going to postpone again. I really want to. I said I'm ready though. I was told that I can ask the judge for counseling and it'll be a 6 mo. delay of the finalizing. Should I? The OM is living w/her at our house. The reason for court is because of the house. If I was willing to give it to her we would settle out of court. I don't because I don't want the OM and her to have a free ride through what I have worked hard for. My whole story is here in this forum under "Help. I took a leap of faith" I still have been dark. But 2 weeks is nothing. Now court is around the corner. Should I divorce her and see what happens afterwards because she seems to have already moved on and just wait for the A to dwindle? Or should I force my W to go to counseling even when the OM will be waiting at 'home' for her? How much harder can this be?
