Quote: I wish I knew what he was thinking! Is he depressed about the upcoming events he is missing?
Of course, on some level, he does. My H (still in MLC) tells me all the time, when he is on the verge of doing something stupid, that he knows he is going to look back on it and say 'what the h*ll was I thinking'. Maybe your H is thinking the same thing?
I understand your need for action... but sometimes I think the best thing you can do, especially for yourself, is nothing . You need to give yourself some time to get yourself together. Detach and stay busy. And just remember; take each day on it's own. Don't try to look into the future right now. It is very, very hard, I know.
Quote: he said just living day to day... He will not even pick up the phone or answer emails from his parents...
All typical... and he won't want to talk to anyone that doesn't tell him what he wants to hear (ie: that he's right or that he's doing the right thing)
Quote: I just hope that I can handle things when he does show back up.
You can! Don't let his emotions or games control you! If your D wants to call him; that's fine. But you don't contact him in any way shape or form. When he calls or emails, (and he will) be friendly but make it short and to the point. and don't always be available to talk and don't answer his emails right away. When you see your H win the Academy Award for best actress! Smile! Be friendly and nice and behave as if you're ready to move on and get on with your life without him! It will drive him crazy, believe me! I'm not saying that doing all this is easy... it's extremely hard... and try not to backslide... but when it does, just pick yourself right back up and get back at it.
Remember... no matter what happens... you are going to survive and be fine!
