I have nothing to add of insight. I find this thread insightful. Like most here, the likely stage is replay for my H too. I learned this weekend that he has started to drink, don't know how much, but He's going far from home to hang out at "dives." Whatever, he's re-connecting with his father. OW loves my H, he doesn't love her, I actually feel a bit sorry for her. I know little about her, don't ask and don't snoop. I saw this quote from Snooderly here which made me laugh
Quote: The ow doesn't care how he behaves just as long as the money is coming in and she has a place to stay. She wants financial support and a fun time.
It is pretty much the same thing that I have seen in so many other places. I know that every sitch is different, but OW is financially taking care of my H. She may not even realize it yet, who knows, but the his cell is on her acct, he bought a computer, which she financed, I bet she co-signed other loans too. I hope that she is taking care of herself, b/c I am not going to be saving either of finacially.
