I'm going to be doing a copy & paste of that to my own thread
Quote: This is my cribnote on Stages. 1 Denial 1- 6 monthss we're usually in the dark about this & some major life event is likely to set this into motion
2 Anger 3-9 months we're maybe walking on eggshells trying to figur out whats going on 'cause we're not sure what but somethings not quite right
3 Replay 2 yrs to forever bomb Drop usually happens now or just before & we're now finding out about how "bad" our marriage has been & possibly OW pops onto the scene
4 Depression 2 1/2 - 6 months many will self medicate with alcohol or drugs rather than seek medical help, the depression will run thru a good portion of the MLC in varying degrees
5 Withdrawal 3 months - 1yr there are varying degress of withdrawal during the MLC process - this one is referring to the longer one during which time they're starting to deal with their issues there are also the short withdrawals which occur after they've spent some time with the family & feel the need to fight "going home" or the guilt which they feel
6 Acceptance this is a 3 stage process but the 3 stages kinda run paralel a Personality distintergration like 3 faces of eve b Revisiting stages (all but denial?) these will be lesser versions of the past events c Facing final fears dealing with hose "Issues" & Resolving them enough to move forward
Post crisis rebellion usually minor when compared to what we've been thru already & short lived also called a settling down period
no data on timelines for stage 6 or post crisis rebelion, 6 months to 1 yr is what I've read somewhere for this settling down process
some stages overlap More Important than focusing on what stage you may think WAS is at is the work which we do during this time to make the needed changes in our own lives and the timelines are only guidelines. Many people get caught up & overly concerned about the time line & stages Each MLCer is differant & these are just to give a general overview of what to expect the length is determined by the MLCer how & what they do in replay will affect timeline whether they choose to face their issues or continue to try to avoid dealing with them
Remember WE can NOT FIX THIS nor can we make this go any faster than it is
