Hope, Thanks for starting this thread. I don't think I any where near that this with H, but I do know that he started this trip about 3 years ago. I don't hold out much hope that he will ever want to come back. Snodderly has such a positive attitude and so great at helping everyone else that I only hope I can do just a little of what she has done. I am fine with where I am now because I believe that there is nothing else that I can do to change it. He is so infatuated with OW even though it is still an EA, that I feel he will never break free of her. I have convinced myself of this and so I think that helps me to move forward without him. He peeks out and makes contact and then I don't see him for awhile. He has always been one of those that keeps in contact quite a bit. I am afraid that by the time he is out of replay I will have moved on too far and there will be nothing left for us. Maybe or maybe not. I am just having a bad week I guess. Thanks for the post as it gives me something to think about. Sue
