was just reading over your thread a bit again and read something about your counsellor saying that your wife needs to 'make the effort' to chase you
and then you posted you didn't know how to make this happen I was thinking maybe if you did something unusual or unexpected like join a group or something to learn a new hobby etc she may begin to show a little interest I don't know maybe take up pottery or painting and then when you come back from class she has to ask what you are doing when you are there
I think you need to create something different you can both talk about a change in your daily schedule - a bit of mystery
