Sven, BJ, Gwyn, Kester, thanks for confirming my observations and beliefs. Your support and feedback is why I am here.
And it's TRUE, when we do become complacent is when we begin the slow destruction of our marriage and become just roommates.
Every day should contain some celebration of our love for each other, no matter how small a celebration it is. Just as long as we take the time to observe it.
W is a childhood sexual abuse survivor and it brings with it a whole lot of behaviors and tests of me that she'll always have, so she can reaffirm that she is safe and protected. It's that part of our relationship that is often hard to look at some weird fight or emotional outburst, and rather than react to her, try to see if those old fears are behind what she says or does.
But at least now I'm aware. And that makes all the difference. She has always been a good woman and is worth the fight I've fought.
