TOTALLY AGREE. One must think of this more as a journey. I would fear that if I treated a saved marraige as a destination, I would (and WAW would) very much end up in a bad place again.
It comes down to being in it for the long haul. It should always be a work in process and only completed when we leave this world.
Then for me, I want to be eulogized as a great HUSBAND, FATHER, and friend.
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
