Maybe we say, she is human and she made a mistake. After all she maybe has the same feelings everytime your mood swings.
Just a thought.
I have always said to myself:
When I die the person holding my hand is the one who loved me the most and the one true partner. At that point I dont think I will be thinking of all the human errors they made in their/our life.
Just a thought.
Shark
P.S. It does seem the longer you go the more piecing you are doing.