Quote: I wish I could tell you what women like in bed, I could, but your W has issues from her childhood so I would be all wrong.
I know what women like in bed, she's playing something else and that's my frustration. The "I can't talk to you about it" is not true. We talk about 'it' all the time. She's really talking about her emotional state - but not with me.
Quote: For some reason, I sense that she's feeling "in control" of life for the first time, and she's controlling...so dictating how the M shoudl work, her sexual needs (not sexuality, as you stated, VERY different topic and not one you need to worry about), timing, in love, not in love, etc.
Possibly true. Although she also seems to like to let me be dominant now. I pay all the bills, she is occasionally getting some pleasure out of spending my money again.
Quote: She's still testing, watching, thinking, dealing with issues. Good for you, at least she's sincere. But, bottom line, I think she's handling "being in control" for the first time, of her own life. She's waving that light sabor around, getting a feel for it, for how it makes you act, the kids act, the impact on her life. In my M, I did the same thing, to an extent.
Yeah, I can sense that too. She goes back and forth though, but counselor says it's so she can see if I will remain 'the same' no matter what she does.
Quote: Hang in there Frank. You've turned the impossible upside down, and we all have hope through you. You are a VERY patient man. Vent here, be the best H you can be at home.
I do the best I can. I REALLY need a break - or at least for HER to start carrying some of the ball.
