I haven't chimed in on your sitch in a while and I'll echo what BJ has said.
Long ago I could not believe the common pieces of our situations - and it continues to do so. My W is not the victim of abuse (sexual anyway that I am aware of or that she has claimed), but she was emotionally abused. She is an ACOA, parent split when she was 8 and it was ugly, etc. It effected our LL by creating a wall by which she felt she could only ML if she had a light buzz on. Sad. Don't get me wrong, she is not an alcoholic, we both drink only occasionally.
In our last couple counseling sessions, some of the hurt and anger has started to pour out and we starting to work through it. I'm moving back and I have the same sense we will eb and flow like you and your W. We're pretty enthusiastic now, but I know there will be times of downers.
One question for you however - which I don't know that I have mastered, but has helped. I've really worked at "creating" attraction between my W and me - and I continue to do so. Too much to explain on the board so I may send you an e-mail describing more.
Anyway, you continue to inspire and I can certainly feel your frustration. But, I see you guys MOVING forward and only forward....
Sven
Never sacrifice the great for the good. Sometimes the beauty of grace is that it makes life not fair.
