Quote: Also, the other day you found out some pretty heavy stuff about your W's past and seemed to get a different perspective on things. Did that altered perspective include some renewed patience?
Most definalty. I was talking to her about it and told her that I would NEVER let my daughter go through that kind of thing. That I would tear the moon out of the sky if I had to to get justice, to protect her. This never would have happened if I was there.
I told this to counselor today and she said "you did protect her by SAYING that to her". you made her know that she was safe with YOU.
Quote: I just think that it would be foolish of US to throw our M away because we finally get to the promised land of self awareness and take responsibility for our lives and our W's are not quite there yet.
Yes, sometimes it's frustrating and I have to vent. I feel just like you said though, 'WE are there, when will they be?'. Patience.
Quote: You can SEE all this stuff much clearer than your W can but you are frustrated at having to "let" her find her own way. Trust me, I understand.
Yes, you do. It's our cross to bear - we know the answer but we can't tell them.
Quote: I just want to encourage you to ease back, reign in the emotions a little bit (BTW, you seem to be doing much better with that already) and wait. You ARE talking. You ARE progressing, and you ARE seeing signs. Recognize that you have come SO far and the distance you have yet to go before things get MUCH better seems to me to be small in comparison.
I have been. Thanks for the reinforcement. My biggest worry is that SHE will give up. She has a ways to go still. And Luckily I still know what to say to her most of the time. And when to say nothing.
