Frank, I could post a blow by blow response to your last post but really it all boils down to amen brother. I am in the same place and feel the same things. The main difference, and something I am trying to do in my sitch, is that you and your W talk about this stuff, something that I think is really good and will prove to be extremely helpful in repairing the damage.
Also, the other day you found out some pretty heavy stuff about your W's past and seemed to get a different perspective on things. Did that altered perspective include some renewed patience?
I just think that it would be foolish of US to throw our M away because we finally get to the promised land of self awareness and take responsibility for our lives and our W's are not quite there yet.
Frank, you have the internal power to make it a while longer, really, probably as long as any of us. You know that most of your negative emotions are born of frustration stemming from your elevated emotional vantage point. You can SEE all this stuff much clearer than your W can but you are frustrated at having to "let" her find her own way. Trust me, I understand.
I just want to encourage you to ease back, reign in the emotions a little bit (BTW, you seem to be doing much better with that already) and wait. You ARE talking. You ARE progressing, and you ARE seeing signs. Recognize that you have come SO far and the distance you have yet to go before things get MUCH better seems to me to be small in comparison.
