Sorry to hear about what your W is going through but I too think it's an obvious turning point that frankly (no pun...ah well, sure it's intended) I'm sure a lot of people would never have gotten to. Not to apply you sitch too universally, but THIS is why sometimes we need to just let time play it's part and have patience.
I think now that you understand what she went through and what she's going through now, you can make more informed decisions and I should think this should also bolster your ability to HAVE patience with her. She just let you in on something that only a handful of people know and I suspect THEY only know because there were there at the time.
I have known people who have been affected by such things and it really does do things to you. I hope she can get a grip on this and I have no doubt that you will be a loving, kind supporter of her should she turn to you for that.
