Still reading, but not posting, as you have some really good help already.
I was also sexually abused as a young child and never told anyone. I hate to use this overused term, but I did have a "dysfunctional" family for a variety of reasons, and I did not feel that I could tell anyone or I'd get in trouble for it. I couldn't remember exactly what had happened - just had nightmares and other symptoms - until about three years ago. I had PPD, dealt with that, and then a few months later, I was in a yoga class and had such a severe flashback that I had a panic attack. That was the beginning of a hellish several months of dealing with this. I think the PPD somehow unclenched it, not sure how.
Anyway, thing is, this thing that happened to me more than 30 years ago had had *huge* repercussions on my life THAT I HADN'T EVEN REALIZED CAME FROM THAT. Once I was able to deal with that issue and clear it up, a whole lot of other things got better too. Except, my R with H.
At first, he wouldn't believe that it really happened. Kept saying they were "false memories." Then, he got really angry. Our sex life was already not great and it was like this just put out the rest of the fire. He would not touch me. I don't know if he was afraid to or what, but it made me feel terrible about myself.
I think that this could be a real breakthrough for your W. I had spent many years in therapy before all this came out, and I really think I was just ready at the time when it did. My T had made no mention of sexual abuse; I was the one who brought it up. No one else had ever said anything about it either. He helped me so much and it has really made a huge difference in my life. This may sound strange, but I'm really happy that your W has told you and the C about this, so now she can start to heal.
~Nicola
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