you know this is just a thought but you could always say that you have been thinking a lot about what she said she wants to feel and you realise that you want to feel that too maybe get the discussion going on how you can both get involved together on coming up with things that work and things that just don't put a star chart on the fridge and give each other a star when things work (yes I know kids stuff but it works for kid behaviours so why not adult one's) come up with a list of what works at the side cross out what doesn't just quiet make it
sometimes the simplest things are the best the person who gets the most stars after a month gets 'what' I don't know that's up to you two
maybe just introducing a little competition might work
you have done so much and come through so much (both of you) this has to be easier than what has gone before it
