Quote: The only thing I can tell you Frank is that I have found a couple things that seem to be working with my W, similar to your W's hair brushing, and as I continue to do these things, unasked, she seems to be warming up to me. I guess, try to identify the little things that give your W small moments of passionate feeling and build on those.
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Yes, it does seem to help - a little. I agree with the 'why do WE have to be the ones doing it all and they do nothing' but that's why this all happened - in their minds. I'm all for saving the marriage but a little help would be nice. How can I feel like I'm saving it when I see a 'partner' who isn't much of a partner in this right not. Is this the way she will always be?
Ok, so identifying the 'little things' like brushing hair is nice and doing things without being asked - also good. I'm finding that I just don't like doing some of these things all the time. Especially when I get nothing for me.
Still running my life having to fill my own cup all the time, and fill hers.
I'll catch up on your sitch and hopefully get some new perspectives!
