Starting over

[Becca1975]

You know what I want to know? When SHE has to do something to build this passion and romance. Her wanting it from you is normal, natural and all that....but it is NOT fair for her to expect to just sit by the wayside waiting for the prince in the white horse that is within you to come by and sweep her off her feet. I can tell you right now that if she doesn't put forth some effort also, you are just spinning your wheels. It will never work because she will never feel what it is she wants to feel. She has to participate in order to feel anything.

A thought that went through my mind that may be something for you to ponder (but not necessarily the right thing to do) would be for you to just say the equivilant of what she's said before. That this would be so much easier with someone new and you aren't sure you want to put for all thsi effort when it is clear that she isn't putting for ANY effort.