Cemar, I love sex and don't have a problem with semen at all. But I also get up and use the bathroom after sex. My doctor told me once always to do this after sex to avoid urinary tract infections and yeast infections.

Also one thing I picked up on is your wife will roll over and say, "Let's take care of you."
That is AWESOME that she will say this I think. It shows she does want to take care of you. Let's face it she could roll over and not say anything at all. She could care less about your needs at all. But she says lets take care of you. I think you are taking this statement way to negative.
Because let me tell ya I am a HD woman and I have said this to my husband also. What I mean by it is I would really like to take care of him.