RE CeMar After having sex, my wife ALWAYS gets up and goes to the bathroom. Same here. BB has to. Lots of women have to. Yes “have to”
If BB does not pee after sex there is a 20% chance she might get a urinary tract infection referred to as a UTI. The results of not peeing is a UTI and when you have one of those puppies peeing is like squeezing out mini-razor blades. Women should also do other things different than most men.
I spent almost a month gathering information about UTI’s, condensed the material so BB would read what I gathered, and bought and read 2 books.
I always shower before sex so I lessen the chance of BB getting a UTI. I wish she would but brick wall there. KWIM. I think you deal with that brick wall too.
I refuse to have sex with BB unless she uses a baby wipe on her vaginal area before sex. Pees with in 5 minuets after sex and like I said, I have to be washed off before. No excuses, no exceptions. I am not going to give BB any amo for her case against sex! Use a lube if you need. BB tried to dodge the sex because the wipes dried her out, So use lube!
or is there some kind of aversion to having the mess of sex It could be. Some people are icky factor types.
I am fixed so there is not that much mess Sperm blockage and ejaculate fluid are two different things. Lots of fluid is not associated with getting fixed. I have less fluid and I am not fixed. Less fluid for me is due to aging and prostate function.
wonder if she doesn't go in there to pee and use her kegel exercises to push things out. If she wants it out, that is her choice. Everyone has an icky limit.
I can imagine you would feel more accepted if she was not a fluid phobic. Try to not take her pushing things out as if there is something wrong with you. I know, tough to do.
really dislikes leakage, and after we are done, Yes some people, men and women don’t like that wet feeling. BB is one of them.
FarAway When I was in school, sex ed taught to go to the bathroom when you finished with sex. School, US Army, and all over the inter-net on health forums. Men and women should pee.
An Army health film on VD/STD about cat houses in Korea SE Asia, where mama sons (monthly shack ups sex trade females) were a problem said to use condoms and wash every time. If you did not use a condom WASH and Wash again and both M & FM pee before and after sex. (1965) No I never had the opportunity or indulged if you are wondering.
GEL Some people are very vigilant hygienically (my H is this way too). First time BB and I were sexual I was like GEL’s H. I did not want to dribble on BB anymore than I had. I thought she would like my stickiness on her in anymore places. And who likes to lay in the wet spot?
#1121895 - 04/07/06 06:28 Good post GEL
NHTom Urinating after sex is also a way to clean out the urethra and so prevent the chance of a urinary infection. Not everyone needs to do this, but some people suffer terribly if they don't. Right on. And some people can do anal L, vaginal, and oral and not get infected.
There are different good and bacteria in each location.
Cemar I am seriously thinking that the next time we have sex and I bring her to orgasm orally, that I will NOT have sex with her when she says "OK, Let's Take Care Of You". I may just tell her thanks, but no thanks. Just my opinion CeMar, that sounds like game playing. If you want to not go there for yourself skip the Oral for her. JMOP.
There are many nights where I give my wife a rub down, mostly her legs and lower back. She likes this because it relaxes her. One problem with this is that the techniques that can arouse her are also the same techniques that can put her to sleep, so it is a real fine line to too Same here but some times I plow through BB’s sleep. Funny thing she wakes up after we/I boink, BB wants more in the back rub area. My case is different.
The Eskimo gear is intended to keep ME away (and I suspect that many women do this Could be but maybe not., maybe she feels something else. You are there and know more than I do.
Lil BUT he is the authority on what is going on in his marriage. Cemar Lil’s words are wise.
What I have done some times is do the back rubs, feel rejected because BB is un co-operative but go ahead with the sex anyway. Sure, I fail and when I fail the sex gets worse over the long haul. Sometimes I just have to stand up for what I want and if I think I am mostly right, I go for it. The results are not what I want but the alternative is less satisfying. Two choice dilemma, yes.
