Had sex with the wife last night. I just have a question for the ladies. After having sex, my wife ALWAYS gets up and goes to the bathroom. There is NEVER time for afterglow in our sex life (which I would like). Can someone explain to me is this normal? Does sex cause you to feel like you need to pee, or is there some kind of aversion to having the mess of sex (and I am fixed so there is not that much mess). I wonder if she doesn't go in there to pee and use her kegel exercises to push things out. Is this normal? She really dislikes leakage, and after we are done, she wants me no where near her genitals.
I've known many women who feel the need to go to the bathroom after sex for the simple reasons that, yes...either they need to pee, or they wish to clean themselves up...some women really don't care for the feeling that they are leaking (and it can feel that way). Some people are very vigilent hygenically (my H is this way too). I can lay there for a few minutes, but he feels the need to clean up...it's nothing personal. An XBF of mine (who was very HD) did the same thing as well, so it's not HD/LD. I truly doubt she's doing any exercises to push anything out, when I read that I actually laughed out loud, not so much at you, but at the thought of it (and why in the heck would you even think that?) This is nothing out of the norm...some women do this, some don't (has nothing to do with HD/LD/ND)....and it's NOTHING directed at YOU....so don't even go there.
She may not want you to touch her in her genital area because she could be overly sensitive from the previous sexual contact so touching the genitals after sex for some people can actually feel more irritating than pleasurable to some folks. Once again not normal/abnormal.
Urinating after sex is also a way to clean out the urethra and so prevent the chance of a urinary infection. Not everyone needs to do this, but some people suffer terribly if they don't.
I get up perhaps 5-10 minutes afterward and have no problems in this regard. I just wish it were more often...
Actually it is recommended for women to do so because of the chance of urinary tract infection even if they are not particularly susceptible. It does not necessarily take away from the afterglow - the connection can be re-established when she comes back to bed. Have you told her that this is important to you.
My H gets up within minutes after sex and washes off. I usually have to pee within 5 minutes of having sex. Don't know why just figured it was extra pressure on my bladder.
She comes back to bed, in her eskimo gear, gets in bed, rolls over and trys to go to sleep. If I try to cuddle, she will usually say "Go to Sleep". Heck not only could I use afterglow, there are times where I would'nt mind cuddling and then going for it again. But, as with many LD people, SLEEP is her priority (always, and she gets far more sleep then I do).
I had sex, maybe for the third time this year. Can't even remember the last time I actually ML to my wife, I know it was at least 11 years ago. But she is good for about 6 sessions of sex a year. It's almost like advanced MB. I give her a great time and she "takes care of me". I am seriously thinking that the next time we have sex and I bring her to orgasam orally, that I will NOT have sex with her when she says "OK, Let's Take Care Of You". I may just tell her thanks, but no thanks. It just leaves a bad taste in my mouth when I accept sex under such conditions.
