About 3 months ago, through emails, I started a relationship with my wife's friend. It started innocently enough, with her sending me messages at work about upcoming events we had planned as a foursome. Then (as you could probably figure) the discussion turned to us, our common interests (there are many-we are the same ages and have a lot of things in common, more so than we do with our respective spouses), and how unhappy we actually were in our marriages. In just over a month, we went from friends to being madly in love & ready to leave our spouses for each other, mostly due to the intense conversations via email. We both told our spouses on the same day, and both agreed to counseling (its been about 6 weeks now). I have broken off communication with her in order to give my wife & I a "fair" chance (the OW is extremely upset for me in doing this). I still love her (the OW), but I want to give my marriage a chance. I guess my questions are (1) how to I get this woman out of my thoughts (I think about her it seems every minute), and (2) how can I rebuild things with my wife (the OW was her best friend & my wife talks of "getting even" with her, etc. My wife has also talked about wanting to find out if other men find her attractive - such as by wanting to go out to bars, etc.. How do I interpret that comment? Thank you.
