At IC today my C calle dmy W and had about a 15-20 minute conversation with her. He said she seemed wheepy, but firm in her stance that she wants out. He had hoped to gain a different perspective on my anger/jealousy problems, but she didn't really give any new information.
After the conversation I came back into the room and continued my session. Basically he said to keep doing what I'm doinf to better myself. He suggested that I may be enabling her current behavior by continueing to pay for her acr, the house, & occasionally buying her ciggerettes/gas. Basically she's having her cake and eating it too. She hasn't really faced any consequences for her decisions. He said I might wnat to look into what my legal rights are so if she persists I don't end up losing out. He thought maybe I would wnat to get abck into the house in order to protect the kids from any damage caused by OM being there.
So I've scheduled an appointment with an attorney for next tuesday so I can find out what my rights are. I am not giving up and will continue DBing...I'm just going to start looking out for my interest and my kids' interest.
As fro my W...I'm getting worried about her. Every time I see her she is down. I think she really needs to seek C for herself but she insists taht I'm the only one with problems. She's been down before but lately it seems really bad. I just wanna give her a hug and tell her it'll be alright. I hope somehow she turns things around for herself...I hate seeing her like this.
Back to the hicky issue...I know i should just let it go. BUT I feel bad that I made her feel like a slut(her words). I want to apologize. Bad idea? I just want to apologize and explain why I got upset.
Oh.....C also thinks it may be benificial to ahve W come and do a session together. If she won't...no big deal, but might help if she did. I'm not sure about this. I think she may feel tricked into MC, and she clearly doesn't want anything to do with that.
