The hickie question was out of line and maybe a bit pressuring. But I sent her the text to find out when she would be picking the kids up...nothing more. I really don't call her, or text her often...but when I do she never responds. Normally it's a text if I need something...I figured that was less in your face than a phone call.
As for telling her she can talk to me...I just want her to know that I'm her friend.
I won't be asking for a sit down, at this point I think that's a bit over the top.