I'm not really sure what to make of things right now. For the longest time my wife has been pushing for quick exchanges with the kids, no talks about R, and no talks about anything really but the kids. I did alot of thinking about today's exchange while I was at work and something just seems off. I know that me asking what was on her neck upset her, I know that telling her I can't take the kids friday upset her. She also gave me money to pay the cell phone bill and I told her it wasn't enough...that upset her a bit. But it felt like she was upset before all that. She initially said "why does this feel tense?" and I told her it was just an awckward situation but not tense. Then she said she is fine with the situation.
We exchanged a few comments about our weekends, I told her that I had gone to my brother's in-laws house for memorial day. She wondered why. I told her that my brother left but I stayed for a while with a mutual friend who is also married into the family. Before i explained why I stayed she asked if I was dating someone in his in-laws family.
fast forward to her late reaction to the hickie question. She said "what difference would it make? I am dating someone else, you are dating someone else. So what's the difference." (left a bit of that out before) I told her that I wasn't dating anyone. She said I told her myself that I was dating (I Told her I went out a with a girl a couple times...I mentioned this a few pages back) When all was said and doen she left upset. I think I did a good job of controlling myself and don't think I acted angry.
So a couple hours after she left I sent her a textasking where she was working today (some days she works in one school, some days it's a different one) so that I could tell my parents when she would pick up the kids. I also asked if she had gotten some pics I emailed to her(my brothers new baby). She never responded. that got me thinking..she hasn't responded to a text or called me in weeks. Basically it's been since I stopped the pressure and pulled back. So now I'm wondering what is up with her? Something seems off.
I want to ask her if something is wrong. Would this be a bad idea? She just seems to be colder to me since I pulled back. I think I'm going to ask her to have a sit down discussion thursday night.
Or even better...maybe I'll just tell her it seems like something is bothering her and that if she wants to talk she can talk to me about anything.
