W has what appears to be a hickie on her neck. She says it is from wrestling with the kids. I don't know about that but I just dropped it. Minutes later she asked what difference would it make. I just asked "you can't figure out why it would make a difference to me?' I said "you are going to do what you want, I can't stop you. But it will still upset me." I guess this just shows physical proof of something I've been trying to convince myself isn't happening.
We then went on to disagree with the weekend "schedule". There is no real schedule, we just take the kids as needed for her/my plans or if one of us has to work. Usually it's no big deal. Apparantly friday she has plans but I told her I can't take them because I have to help someone. She is all mad because I never want to take the kids(not true), I purposely keep her from doing things(not true). I don't know what to make of her lately. If anything I've been very accomadating lately, I let her set the times and I've actually had them an extra day here and there. She is clearly stressed out from work, I wish I could help with that....more than just backing off and giving her space.
Now in the past I would take all of this, get all worked up and call her to try to work it out. I would come up with a great list of reasons why we should be together and try to convince her of it. Not this time. I'm going to wait and see what happens from here. This is so difficult, I hate DBing.