I do realize that it's not really over until I give up. I know that what she is going through is temporary. the way I like to see it is that the way I acted before gives her no choice but to move on without me. I need to make sure the changes are permanent in oreder for her to have a choice. If she still choses to move on then at least I made the changes I needed to for myself.
I find it easier and less destructive to post questions like those hear rather than asking her. I fully believe that however my sitch turns out it will be for the best.