For me this trully has been an educational experience. I've learned so much about relationships and the extraordinary amount of work that should go into one. I can look back at my own sitch and realize now that I didn't do the things I should have. I didn't make my wife feel like I loved her...I just thought she would "know". Point is that these new compliments are something I will continue to do, with her in a new R or with someone else.
The problem for me in this whole process isn't knowing what to do, it's having the patience and the self dicipline to do the right things.
