Yeah, sometimes I think my "little voice" is out to get me. He always gives me the wrong advice.
Through my IC and brief talks with my W I've determined that no matter how this turns out this is something that I needed to go through. So many things are coming to lite for me in the last few days that it's almost mind blowing.
As far as avoiding R talks initiated by me, that should be a little easier now that I've gone back to work. For the last 6 or 8 weeks I've really had nothing to occupy my time, now I can kill a lot of time with work.
I think eventually she will warm up to the idea of repairing the R but I am prepared for a long process.