I completely (completely!) understand the desire for some jealousy from your W. I want some too. And I don't think my H was initially attracted to OW (friends for YEARS). Remember, the more you know/like someone, the more attractive they become. Just a thought, not trying to scold.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3