For what it's worth, your post just sent up a Red Flag for me. You are in no emotional position (none of us are) to be hanging out with a member of the opposite sex bemoaning our R's. Hell, that's what started my H's A, so I am sensitive to people doing that.
As far as your particular situation, I think it seems like a 'jealousy card' you are trying to play on your W ('got any hot dates? Go fish'). That is not what DBing is about, if I understand it correctly. It's not a trumping game of Who Can Care Less; it's real life changes for the betterment of YOU and then ultimately your R.
Not to be harsh, so please don't take it that way. I just tend to step in the middle of things here and speak my mind.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
