Quote: Can this still work? Or should i cut my losses and move on?
You know, that's one of the decisions we all have to make many times...right up until we figure out that WE ARE IN CONTROL of our lives and nobody else's.
It's NEVER too late, at least in the abstract sense. What I mean is that YOU have to decide if you really want this to work or not. That is to say that you are willing to take the risk of really TRYING to do things like detach and LRT before you have no choice but to.
What is going to change tomorrow if you "cut your losses and move on"? Well, first of all, you probably won't initiate any more R talks, which is good DB anyway. Next, you are going to quit pursuing her and pressuring her, which is good DB too. Basically, by "giving up" you are really going to just start doing what you should have been doing all along.
The risky part is to not allow your feelings for her to die off AND still do all these things, realizing that it's probably the only thing that will work.
It's really hard to do these things and make these decisions. It's hard to take risks since we are already in so much pain but to do so is to really start to move forward with your life, understanding that you are fully responsible for it.
So, stop pushing OR pulling her and just start to live again. She WILL see that and hopefully, someday, will respond to it given the honest chance to.
