Quote: I wish I was able to just pull back and let her do what she needs to do, but my gut instinct is to try to show her that I'd be the H that she deserves.
Man, I think there are probably 1000 different things I have said are the "hardest part of this" but I do think this ranks up there. You HAVE to let her do this. She may reach out for you, and when she does, be there for her but not to take away her pain but to validate it and help her deal with it herself. What she is crying out for is validation. Between her people at work turning on her and you invalidating her with both your kind words and not-so-kind words and actions, she is getting it from all sides.
YOU need to be the one who relieves that pressure by taking that step back, detaching, being there for her when she calls to validate and then stepping back.
