I certainly understand your dilemma. If you go for while without doing the little things, they become transformed into annoyances when you get around to finally doing them. This fact is especially the case after your W has indicated that your M is in crisis and that you don't do the little things anymore. After that, they all seem contrived and the W doesn't believe that they are valid expressions of love.
Unfortunately, I am paying a very big price for not paying attention to my W's desire for more little tokens of love. Since she has moved out and is with the OM, there isn't much I can do now.
